I’m so sorry that you are affected by grief ….Never is there such a time in life when you encounter such a diversity of feelings, as when you lose someone close. 

The traditional meaning of grief is mourning for the loss of someone who has died, but although most people intuitively think it’s about losing someone through a bereavement - grief is a normal reaction to the massive, life changing dismay of losing someone, or something that is deeply valued, or loved. 

Did you know that whilst grief can mean mourning the death of someone close, it can also mean the loss of a feeling of safety after a crime such as a burglary or personal attack, it could be physical, or sexual?  It can be for a lost relationship, a pet, something that is valued such as a job.  In this climate this year, many people are grieving for jobs, missed opportunities and even life that has passed them by.   It’s more about a state of mind than having hard and fast rules.  The important theme is that you will go through a number of stages before you emerge through the final stage - hope for the future.

Grief includes a wide variety of physical and emotional symptoms, you may feel isolated, alone, vulnerable, helpless, angry, or indignant and to make matters worse, if you’ve lost someone close, your friends and people around you may either try really hard to help, bringing you help, food, clothing wanting to take away your washing – actually anything that will make them  feel useful, they can expect (almost demand that) you talk to, or confide in you to the point of intrusion or they feel so awkward that they steer a very wide berth and make you feel awkward.  

If you are grieving you may feel:

• Shock or disbelief.
• Denial.
• Anger.
• Guilt.
• Sadness
• Fear
• Depression.
• Acceptance
• Hope for the future.
• None of the above

Are you (or your feelings) normal, or typical?  The simple answer is your feelings are normal for you.  Everyone has their own set of beliefs, standards and thoughts, you experience life in your unique way; so why would you expect to experience a loss in the same way as others?

I can help you to feel better.  Contact me now chris@whatsholdingyouback.biz